I am the stepmother of a 6 year old girl. My husband and I are non-custodial but very involved in her upbringing. Stepdaughter, her mother, and mother's boyfriend just moved to another city and enrolled SD in a new school. My question is about emergency contacts. Who has the legal right to approve emergency treatment of my SD? I know my husband and her mother do, but do I?

With the mother's boyfriend, she goes around calling the boyfriend SD's stepdad and saying they have a common law marriage - but the boyfriend is still married to someone else so I don't think that's legally possible. So if he's just her boyfriend and not a common-law husband/stepdad, can he approve emergency treatment of my SD?

I'm concerned that SD's mother might have just listed herself and her boyfriend as emergency contacts at the school, so I'm concerned that the boyfriend even if reached wouldn't be able to give approval for emergencies so he wouldn't be a reasonable alternate for SD's mother.

TIA,

Teri